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Families nowadays are very different than the usual families before. in our time capsule (blog), we included some Filipino family cultures that we could see in our present time such as, attitude of usual Filipino mothers to their kids (they are most of the time becoming "naggers"), children, most of the time are becoming more attached to their mother than their father, because in most Filipino families, the children are always with their mom while the father of the family is always busy at work and having no time to bond with their kids. demanding father, where in fathers expect too much to the abilities of their kids, which is really common scenarios nowadays. family bondings and get togethers are also included in this blog,the attitude of Filipino families towards visitors of the house and the usual reactions of parents when they meet their son's/daughter's bf/gf. Filipino families nowadays are also fond of having a maid, usually a "probinsyana" and as time goes on, they are already including them as a part of the family which is very common in our present time. The working mom and dad were also common nowadays which is also included in our list, and the habit of bringing "pasalubong" of mom and dad to their kids at the end of the day. we also included some videos and pictures symbolizing thing that can be seen in our family culture nowadfays and how unique Filipinos are, for us, nothing can ever replace the identity of being a filipino and being part of every Filipino families, is a great honor for each and everyone of us.

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Madalas itong makita tuwing umaga...
Jaryo, Nagbabasa o sumasagot ng crossword mula sa jaryo at sigarilyo't kape

--> Some of the Common Vendors in the Philippines<--

A Very Demanding Father.. A father has very high expectation of his son. Hilarious!! same with some filipino fathers nowadays

nagging mom -- tsk tsk

JOLLIBEE - Coming Home TVC (Aga Muhlach and family)

Nico jollibee

PLDT NDD ( Suportahan Taka TV Ad 2001 )

Some questions toward Filipino Culture, Children and Families

What are attitudes toward children?

"Children are seen not heard." Parents get shocked when children become assertive and outspoken, and sometimes blame it on the Cartoon Network effect. Traditionally, parents are expected to chart the future, and kids are expected to blindly follow.

Some parents nowadays, however, prefer a more consultative and supportive approach, and even appreciate it when their kids show independence. Maybe values are being shaped by commercials like the "Suportahan Ta Ka" (I will support you) commercial where a father "allows" his son to take up Fine Arts course.

Spanking is avoided by parents who've read (and believed) that spanking can lower a child's IQ. I see some parents, though, who are quick to give a child a whack on the behind.

What is the culture of the family? (roles, etc).

Filipino culture is overtly patriarchal, and covertly matriarchal. In most homes where you have extended families, the mother-in-law is the boss, followed by the wife, then the husband (if at all). This seems to be the pattern as one goes up the economic ladder. ;-)

If a family's finances are saved, it usually means the wife controlled the money. If the fortune is squandered, it usually means the husband controlled the purse strings. But this is not based on any scientific study; rather, that has been my observation.

How does the culture view play and education for children?

Most parents place great importance on education. Particularly on high grades. Sometimes, play is sacrificed in favor of homework, homework and more homework. Other times, play is seen as something competitive, and which can lead to future financial gain (i.e., basketball, swimming, competitive sports).

A lot of children see school as an annoying interruption of their right to continuous play and TV viewing.

Are there any rites of passage for children?

The first thing that comes to mind is male circumcision, traditionally performed at the onset of puberty. In the provinces, the boy is asked to chew guava leaves, wait for the "cut", swim across the river, and then place the chewed guava leaves on the wound to hasten healing. For the next couple of weeks, he will walk around in a skirt since wearing anything tighter can be quite painful.

More about a typical Filipino Family

Filipinos highly value the presence of their families more than anything. Regardless of the liberal influence they have gotten from the west, the family remained the basic unit of their society. This trait clearly shows among Filipinos abroad who suffer homesickness and tough work just to support their families back home in the Philippines

In a traditional Filipino family, the father is considered the head and the provider of the family while the mother takes responsibility of the domestic needs and in charge of the emotional growth and values formation of the children. They both perform different tasks and being remarked separately by the children. Children see their mothers soft and calm, while they regard their fathers as strong and the most eminent figure in the family.

Because of this remarkable closeness, parents sometimes have difficulties letting go of their children and thus results to having them stay for as long as they want. For this somehow explains why grandparents are commonly seen living with their children in the Philippines. Unlike the way people grow old in the west where they are provided with outside homes and care giving, Filipino elderly enjoy their remaining lives inside their houses with their children and grandchildren looking after them.

Another trait Filipinos made themselves exceptional from others is their strong respect for elders. Children are taught from birth how to say “po” and “opo” to teach them as early as possible how to properly respect their elders. These words are used to show respect to people of older level. Even adults will be criticized for not using these words when speaking with their parents or people older than them. Inside the family, the parents are expected to receive the highest respect from the children along with the elder siblings; as they are given more responsibilities to look after younger siblings when parents are not around.

Children fighting back or addressing parents or elder siblings with arrogant tone are not at all tolerated. They are also not allowed to leave the house without their parents’ permission. Upon arriving home, conservative families expect children to practice the kissing of hands or placing their parents or elder family members’ hand to their foreheads with the words “mano po” as a sort of greeting.

Even after finishing school, Filipino children are not obliged to get out of their homes unless they want to. In fact, most of them keep their close relationship to their parents by staying at least before they get married. Leaving them happens only when they really have to, but usually, at least one child, depending on his willingness and financial capabilities, stay even after marriage to support and look after their aging parents.

More over, Filipinos keep close connection with other relatives. They recognize them from 2nd degree to the last they can identify. As Filipinos say, “not being able to know a relative is like turning their backs from where they come from."

Family Ties

The Filipinos are people of a complex and diverse culture. Their mix cultural and racial origin bestowed them with some of the world’s unique characteristics of hospitality, traits and traditions that although ironically amusing, are uniquely extraordinary.

Close Family Ties

A Filipino family is the centre of society. It is primarily consist of the father, the mother and the children. And in most cases, the grandparents, in-laws, helps and extended families all live in the same house.

The family is patriarchal in nature, in which the father is the head of the family who carries out the decisions and orders in the house including the disciplining of the children. He is also regarded as the main provider of the house: food, shelter, clothing and finances.

The mother, on the hand looks after the children, do the chores and assist the husband in putting the family together. She is responsible in the moral and spiritual upbringing of the children and unity in the house. She may question her husband’s authority over the children but will mostly be overlooked.

She may be allowed to work, but her husband’s amor propio (face) will be deeply wounded, which can bring embarrassment among his friends and even relatives; one of the causes of marital problems.

The eldest daughter is mostly delegated the tasks of that of the mother while the eldest son is the acting father in the absence of their parents.

Younger children obey and respect their elder siblings as the status dictates. Disobedience or disrespect may end in parental punishment (slapping, pinching and even stick beating are still used in punishing children in the Philippines).

The grandparents and extended relatives who are living with the family are treated as equal family members. They can use and share everything particularly clothing and accessories (in several cases, underpants). In return, they help do the tasks, chores and even finances with the host. There may have problems and misunderstandings, particularly jealousy among them, but they can always be relied on.

Family Business

Filipinos are mostly reliant on their relatives and close friends especially in starting a business. Loyalty and faithfulness in the family are among the traditions which are characteristic in Filipino society. A family member or relative is initially asked or employed to manage the business. There’s no contract, no terms and conditions, merely pakiusap (request) or pakisuyo (favour). Filipinos believe that no family member will steal or let them down.

Family Unity

Filipinos are very protective of their family reputation and status in the society. A fight of a member is a fight of everybody.

If a male member of the family gets in trouble (usually in street brawl), other male members will come along. The same manner happens with female members who will usually swear and say horrible things against each other, although physical fight (scratching and slapping) seldom happens.

If a member is seeking public office, the members of the family support him in his campaign and candidacy. But in cases where a relative vie for a similar position, reconciliation is oftentimes rare.

Family Reunion

Filipinos like eating and having festivities which oftentimes happen during Christmas, New Year, pyesta or fiesta (Saint’s Day), Easter Sunday, Baptismal Rite and birthdays.

These happenings bring family members together especially those who are living away or are working in different places and rarely have the chance or time to come home. The presence of family visitors and reuniting members delight the other members of the family, aside from stories and gossips to tell.

Filipino Family towards VISITORS :D

They say that, Filipinos are very keen on details, even the tiniest, unimportant ones.

If a family is expecting a visitor, particularly someone important or a high ranking official, only the elders, usually the parents, uncles, aunts and grandparents are allowed to face the visitor.

The children and all other family members are not allowed to meet him, unless otherwise called forth. The children stay in the bedroom or other parts of the house away from the meeting area, which is usually at the sala (living room). They will be called when the visitor has left. All the details relating to the visit which are involving the younger members are immediately discussed; otherwise, nothing will be disclosed

If a female member receives a male visitor (a friend or a suitor), the elders and the male members of the family are present either to inquest or to watch out. Once he left, the “audience” will tell the member their advice or feedback, which is oftentimes negative.

On the other hand, if a male member receives a female visitor, the elders, particularly the grandparents will automatically tell the member to be careful or stay away from her especially if she is ill-mannered and not presentable (wearing mini skirts and full of make-up). The elders will not bother talk to her, instead they will sit opposite to her and carefully examine her in despise.

And, if a visitor is a foreigner or a relative who comes from abroad, the family is very proud especially when the neighbors are around, and offers everything just to please the visitor. Once the visitor is gone, the family will either praise or mock the visitor. It’s mostly not the presence but the presents.

The Filipino Family

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Look around... What do you see? Filipinos from left, right, and whatever side. They belong to a family. A Filipino family to be exact. A loving family that acts, thinks and response in accordance to every member's needs. A typical filipino family have several traits that can be seen with each and every other families. But how about the family that is existing currently in this phase of time? Did it have any differences with the past families that existed? Does every family have common traits? Let's see...

A typical Filipino Family that exists in the year 2010 definitely:

Goes to church every sunday...either morning, afternoon or evening. And then they will go to Malls or just eat to their favorite restaurant or fast food chains.

Usually has a maid that came from a certain province. This House Mary's have boyfriends that they kill keep on texting no matter what. They will eventually watch telenovelas when evening comes and the last one to sleep.

Know the phrase "MAY NAG TEXT!!" by a popular comedianne named Vice Ganda from a popular afternoon show in abs-cbn entitled "SHOWTIME"

Has parents that usually has no time to do family activities with their sons and daughters because of their jobs that requires more thank 100% of their time per day. TRUE? TRUE?

Will eventually have a vacation for summer somewhere aside from their home. Maybe just paying a visit to their far relatives.

Goes back to their provinces during holy weeks.

Still goes to cemeteries to pay respect to their relatives that passed away.